The infertility statistics in the United States are a bit inconsistent, depending on the source you reference, but letâ€™s face it, if youâ€™re someone whoâ€™s struggling to get pregnant; statistics are the least of your concern. It doesnâ€™t matter what the numbers say, all that matters is what youâ€™re going through personally.
If youâ€™re like most women Iâ€™ve worked with, you feel that youâ€™re on a rollercoaster consisting of the strong desire, or even what feels like a need, to have a child; flashes of hope; tuning into even the slightest physical sign that something different is happening inside your body; anticipation of a positive outcome; then the emotional plummet when your hopes are dashed. The upset, the anger, the strain on your relationship, the hopelessness and then the energy and effort required to pick yourself up to get on the ride again can be overwhelming. In fact, 55% of people polled believe that difficulties getting pregnant are more stressful than being unemployed and 61% feel that theyâ€™re more difficult than getting a divorce. If youâ€™ve had the additional challenge of having a miscarriage, there is a whole other range of emotions that youâ€™re dealing with.
Thankfully, there is help, and that help lies within you. I know youâ€™ve probably spent a lot of time researching, consulting and paying for outside resources, but I can honestly say that the best one I know of is your subconscious mind â€“ the mind thatâ€™s known as, â€œthe bodyâ€™s mind or the emotional mind.â€ This is the mind thatâ€™s fine-tuned to whatâ€™s really going on vs. what the conscious or rational mind believes, fears, or has been told is going on.
Accessing Your Subconscious
The best way to access this part of your mind is through hypnosis. During a hypnosis session your subconscious mind can identify your bodyâ€™s full potential to conceive and carry a healthy child to term. Once it has identified your bodyâ€™s full potential, it can also identify the various blocks and barriers that are in your mind and bodyâ€™s way of realizing that potential.
For example, I was working with one of my fertility clients last week and we bumped in to the mental block of, â€œIâ€™m too busy.â€ A large part of her desperately wants a second child, but her internal mental dialog has been â€œbusy,â€ ever since the birth of her first child. Her subconscious mind let her know that it was preventing pregnancy because it was trying to protect her from being even busier and protect the new child from not having the love and attention it needs from their â€œtoo busyâ€ mother.
Another clientâ€™s subconscious mind was preventing pregnancy because she was not feeling fully committed to her partner and was often having thoughts about the relationship not working and her subconscious mind didnâ€™t want her to be a single mother. The subconscious of another mother-to-be said that she needed to clean up her diet in order for it to be safe for her to get pregnant.
Itâ€™s crucial to remember that the subconscious mind is the powerful and dedicated employee of the conscious mind, and that the instructions that the conscious mind issues, the subconscious mind follows unquestioningly, so the thoughts in the conscious mind must be in line with what is wanted vs. what is feared. Many of the pregnancy blocks Iâ€™ve found over the years sound like, â€œIâ€™m too old,â€ â€œMy mother, sister, friend had troubles conceiving, I probably will too,â€ and â€œIâ€™ve heard how painful childbirth isâ€¦Iâ€™m scared.â€ All of those thoughts are literal instructions to the subconscious mind, and every one are counter to conceiving, so the most important thing is to begin to analyze your thoughts or the instructions youâ€™re giving to the subconscious and make sure that the instructions youâ€™re providing are in line with what you want to happen vs. what you fear wonâ€™t happen. Try, â€œIf women in their 60â€™s can get pregnant then I certainly can.â€ â€œI am not any other woman, I am myself and my body was created to conceive and give natural healthy birth to a child.â€ â€œSomeone elseâ€™s birth experience doesnâ€™t need to be mine, hundreds of women give birth comfortably with hypnobirthing.â€ You mind needs to be in a positive, faith-based place so that your body can relax and do what it was born to do.
Fear and Stress
Fear creates tension and impedes blood and energy flow. It creates a belief of â€œI canâ€™tâ€ within the body instead of â€œI canâ€ and really mucks up with works. Fortunately, hypnosis can help. Having worked with hundreds of couples that were struggling to conceive (the key word is â€œwereâ€) I can say that Iâ€™m consistently amazed at the variety of mental and emotional blocks that the subconscious mind finds. And, once those are cleared, I am time and time again pleasantly surprised by the bodyâ€™s ability to do what it was born to do, which is to create and give birth to a beautiful baby.
Statistics are clear that stress is one of the leading causes of infertility in this country. Stress effects the hypothalamus, which is the part of the brain that helps regulate the hormones involved in conception, FSH and LH. It also controls the pituitary and adrenal response, which regulate the levels of stress hormones in the body. A delicate balance of hormones is needed for every stage of conception, and stress (otherwise known as fear) will throw that balance out of whack.
Stress really is nothing more than fear, and your subconscious mind, when guided properly, can do an amazing job of not only pinpointing your unique fear but can also clear it for you. When the fear is gone, your mind, your emotional body and physical body can relax and when the whole of you is relaxed and filled with faith instead of fear, things happen as theyâ€™re intended to. Hear what some happy clients have to say:
â€œHow do I say thank you to the person who gave me the thing I wanted most in this world? My mind was convinced that I wouldnâ€™t have a child of my own and my heart was broken because of it. It was a grief I never thought Iâ€™d recover from. You helped my mind see what my body was capable of, you helped my heart feel hope and that gave my body the confidence it needed to create my beautiful baby girl. Iâ€™m going to have a son next.â€
~ Lisa, NYC
When you do become pregnant, hypnosis is an amazing tool to enable your body and your baby to have a comfortable birth experience.
â€œWhen it came time for delivery, I remained in a relaxed state and really felt my baby just coming out. Even though I was encouraged to push, I knew my body was just doing its thing â€“ and it did. Delivery took only ten minutes, and I did not need an episiotomy. After that moment, I really donâ€™t remember anything but my little boy. I am so pleased that I took the time to work with you; you helped me change my outlook on childbirth and made it possible for me to enjoy the experience. I still use the relaxation techniques that you taught me, and I look forward to learning more in the future.â€
~ Alisa O.
Research supports these womenâ€™s experiences. Dr. Ernest L. Rossi specializes in psychobiology, or the relationship between the mind and physical body states. He has done extensive research to suggest that human genes must be in a state of physical readiness for conception to take place, and that hypnotic suggestions can activate specific genes in a specific order to help facilitate conception. Hypnosis is an amazing tool that can be used throughout the entire process. In my biased opinion, not using it is like trying to build a house without a hammer. Call for a free consult today, thereâ€™s nothing to lose (aside from your fear) and much to gain.